36 Questions That Lead to Love (And Lava Cake)

If you listen to the Modern Love podcast you may be familiar with the 36 Questions That Lead to Love. Pretty interesting concept and made for a really great New York Times essay turned podcast episode. Basically the idea is that if you and a stranger sit down with these 36 questions, you can get to know one another in such a deep way that those feelings can turn into love.

Already being in a very secure love situation, I wasn’t able to test this out with a stranger. But it did make me wonder, if all it takes is 36 questions to lead to love, then how many questions does it take to stay in love?

I’ve Got 36 Questions and When Are We Eating Is One

My husband and I decided to try out the questions over dinner on our Parents’ Night Out in the city. Not at all for lack of being in love, but for intellectual curiosity and to ensure we did not spend dinner talking about finding the best price on diapers. After 10 years we tend to think we know each other pretty well, but maybe there was some uncharted territory that would make us swoon all over again.

We got all gussied up; Glen even considered ironing his shirt (but didn’t, please, it’s not like we were going to have tea with the Queen). Then we stuffed ourselves full of trail mix, because we don’t know how to eat dinner post 5:30pm anymore and were ravenous, and made our way to the restaurant. Here’s how we did with the questions:

Question 1: If you could have dinner with anyone who would it be? Dead or alive.

Glen: Dead.

Becca: What? No. You can’t just pick “Dead.” Like a person…

Question 2: Gah! Is my dress on backwards?

Glen: Ha! Yes, definitely is.

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15 minutes prior to this conversation I walked down the streets of Boston practicing my runway walk because I felt so pulled together and fancy. Not exaggerating. Wish I was exaggerating.

Question 11: Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

Becca: We good on this one?

Glen: Yah. Next.

Becca: We’re getting that lava cake for dessert right?

Glen: Of course.

Question 16:  What do you value most in a friendship?

Glen: Feeling comfortable because so much else can build on that if you are comfortable together. Laughter, support, being completely yourself.

Becca: That’s such a good answer!! Can I just steal your answer? I can’t beat that…

Midway through I turned this into a competition somehow. I could be wrong but I don’t think that was the writer’s original intent.

Question 21: Should I care more that the little flame under this fancy bowl of butter is going out every 45 seconds?

       Becca: The waiter seems to care a lot and I’ve noticed zero times.

Glen: How bad could slightly less warm butter be?

All of the death questions:

Glen and Becca: Um, these are super sad… I don’t want to do these ones. Where’s that lava cake?

Love is a Battlefield

In all seriousness though there were some really interesting questions on the list which brought up topics we had somehow skipped over in a decade of courtship. And spoiler alert, we are still in love so it totally worked.

Also in all seriousness, has anyone else ever been to a restaurant that asks if you would prefer a black napkin instead of the white napkin that was provided to you? We both said no and it’s one of the biggest regrets of my life. Was it a trick question? Was there a prize in the other napkin? Was this part of a larger social experiment and there was someone sitting behind a two way mirror? I’ll never know and that’s devastating.

In closing, grab your significant other or a stranger and try out the questions to see if you can beat our high score. (Wait, that’s still not the point is it? Whatever. Have fun!)

Marriage

With way more than 36 questions about why we consistently make this face in pictures,

 

36 questions that lead to love. And stay in love!


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